Ask, Seek, Knock

Matthew 7 7-12


I am standing at a crossroads.
helping children to make decisions


What do I do?

Which path do I take?

This passage in the bible is very clear.

Ask – very simply pray, ask God which path he would like us to take.

Seek – what does the bible say? Can it guide us?

Knock – All of us face decisions; it’s like facing a corridor of doors. Which one will open for us. The only way to find out is to knock on them and find out which one will open.

Jesus tells us that if we want to make a decision then to use this formula.

As adults we often dictate to a child, what to wear, what to eat, what friends so have.. but children are capable of making decisions if only we would let them. It’s only natural for us to want to protect them.

Ask the children, how do you make a decision?


Do you throw a coin in the air? Heads or tails.

Do you play one potato, two potato?

When you are choosing clothes do you just take the top t-shirt and pair of trousers or do you think? What is the weather outside? What am I going to be doing?

There are difficult decisions, easy decisions and life changing decisions. But all decisions are important and the younger children are encouraged to make decisions the better.

Teaching children to make simple decisions is important, so that as they grow up the decisions they make become informed, and good decisions.

Very young children are capable of choosing.

Begin with limited choice, so they gain confidence.

Would you like beans or peas?

Would you like to play this game or that one?

They soon learn that they can make good decisions.

As they grow, their decisions become more difficult.

My friend wants me to go and steal some chocolate from a shop? What should I do?

I want to be friends with everyone but my best friend gets jealous if I am friends with others. What do I do?

If a child has grown up learning to make good decisions – they become responsible for their own actions. They learn to think for themselves instead of having every decision being made for them by adults.

Children need to be taught to listen to the quiet voice within themselves. That’s the Holy Spirit leading them.

We need to teach children to take time to make big decisions.

Ask God – pray.

Get them to visualise a door, to knock on it. Is it opened or firmly shut?

When children know their bible then they know ‘what would Jesus do?’ Most children know the answer to this one, they know the difference between right and wrong. They know that Jesus would choose the right way.

A really good way of helping them remember is to get them to make a bead bracelet with the initials WWJD.. repeated over and over.

Or something very simple a little pebble with a question mark on it. A smooth pebble decorated with permanent markers is very easy to make and easy to carry in your pocket.


It’s also important to teach a child that if they make the wrong choice that it’s not the end of the world. That as long as we are sorry – truly sorry then we will be forgiven. Tomorrow is another day with more decisions to make.
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About Michelle Bailey

Reverend Michelle Bailey is the Rural Officer for the Bishop of Brecon and Swansea  She previously worked in Children's Ministry and was ordained in the Church of England. Her blog includes ideas on presenting concepts of faith to young children to the age of eleven and furthering faith development in an educational context. Michelle currently lives in Wales and is also developing a rural ministry blog.
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